{"id":585,"date":"2016-12-19T03:28:00","date_gmt":"2016-12-19T02:28:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/?p=585"},"modified":"2026-02-23T13:09:38","modified_gmt":"2026-02-23T12:09:38","slug":"jak-chwalic-dziecko-zeby-naprawde-pochwalic-cz-1","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/?p=585","title":{"rendered":"Jak chwali\u0107 dziecko, \u017ceby naprawd\u0119 pochwali\u0107? cz.1"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\nTemat dotyczy dzieci, ale… chwalmy nie tylko dzieci. Pochwalmy partnera, wsp\u00f3\u0142pracownika<\/b> oraz samego siebie<\/b>. Chwalenie dodaje wiary we w\u0142asne mo\u017cliwo\u015bci, motywuje do dalszego dzia\u0142ania oraz daje poczucie bezpiecze\u0144stwa<\/b>. Pochwa\u0142a sprawi, \u017ce zachowanie si\u0119 powt\u00f3rzy. <\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nJak sprawdzi\u0107, czy Twoje s\u0142owa naprawd\u0119 s\u0105 pochwa\u0142\u0105 w uszach innych?<\/b><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
\n  <\/b><\/span><\/span>
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\n<\/a>Warto dostrzega\u0107<\/b>
\npozytywne zachowania nawet, je\u017celi wydaj\u0105 nam si\u0119 z pozoru oczywiste<\/b>. Z
\n\u0142atwo\u015bci\u0105 zauwa\u017camy braki, b\u0142\u0119dy i czujemy potrzeb\u0119, aby powiedzie\u0107 o tym
\ndziecku. Warto zmieni\u0107 spos\u00f3b patrzenia i \u015bwiadomie skierowa\u0107 uwag\u0119 na to,
\nco pozytywne w zachowaniu naszego dziecka<\/b>. Mam tutaj na my\u015bli nawet drobiazgi,
\nkt\u00f3re wykonuje codziennie<\/b> np. od\u0142o\u017cenie zabawki na miejsce czy wstawienie
\ntalerzyka do zlewu. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\nWA\u017bNE!<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/b><\/div>\n
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\nR\u00f3wnie\u017c sytuacje, kt\u00f3re
\nw danym dniu przebieg\u0142y spokojniej ni\u017c zwykle<\/b> np. nasze dziecko wr\u00f3ci\u0142o, by nas
\nprzeprosi\u0107<\/b>, zastanowi\u0142o si\u0119 i podj\u0119\u0142o w\u0142a\u015bciw\u0105 decyzj\u0119<\/b>, zjad\u0142o posi\u0142ek bez
\nmarudzenia<\/b>. To tak\u017ce s\u0105 sytuacje, kt\u00f3re warto zauwa\u017cy\u0107 i doceni\u0107<\/b>. <\/span><\/div>\n
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\nJAK CHWALI\u0106?<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n1. Opisz co widzisz <\/span>(zamiast u\u017cywa\u0107 og\u00f3lnik\u00f3w np. super, ekstra, pi\u0119knie)<\/span><\/div>\n
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\n2. Opisz co czujesz <\/span>(lub okre\u015bl cech\u0119, kt\u00f3r\u0105 chcesz utrwali\u0107 w dziecku)<\/span><\/div>\n
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\n <\/span>\u201eWidz\u0119, \u017ce wszystkie naczynia s\u0105 u\u0142o\u017cone w
\nzmywarce, to si\u0119 nazywa porz\u0105dek\u201d<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n\u201eWidz\u0119,
\n\u017ce od\u0142o\u017cy\u0142e\u015b zabawki na swoje miejsce, jestem bardzo zadowolona\u201d<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n \u201eWidz\u0119 czyst\u0105 pod\u0142og\u0119, pos\u0142ane \u0142\u00f3\u017cko,
\nuporz\u0105dkowane ksi\u0105\u017cki. Przyjemnie wej\u015b\u0107 do takiego pokoju\u201d<\/i><\/span><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nMO\u017bE ZAINTERESUJE CI\u0118 R\u00d3WNIE\u017b:<\/span> <\/span>Jak m\u00f3wi\u0107 do dziecka, \u017ceby rozmowa nie zamieni\u0142a si\u0119 w k\u0142\u00f3tni\u0119?<\/b><\/span><\/a><\/span><\/div>\n

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\nZ\u0141OTE ZASADY CHWALENIA:<\/b><\/div>\n
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\n1. Post\u0119puj metod\u0105 ma\u0142ych
\nkrok\u00f3w, zauwa\u017caj wszelkie oznaki poprawy.<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nPrzyk\u0142ad:<\/b> Dziecko co
\nchwil\u0119 odrywa si\u0119 od sprz\u0105tania swojego pokoju, po przypomnieniu wraca do
\nporz\u0105dk\u00f3w. Warto podkre\u015bli\u0107 pozytywne zachowanie s\u0142owami: \u201ePodoba mi si\u0119, \u017ce
\njak Ci przypomn\u0119 to od razu zabierasz si\u0119 do pracy\u201d <\/span><\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n2. B\u0105d\u017a uwa\u017cny! <\/span><\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nJe\u017celi dziecko
\nprzychodzi do nas z rysunkiem, nie m\u00f3wmy mimochodem<\/b> \u201eBardzo \u0142adnie, id\u017a narysuj
\ndrugi\u201d. Zamiast tego postarajmy si\u0119 da\u0107 dziecku nasz czas i uwag\u0119<\/b>, zatrzymajmy
\nsi\u0119 na chwil\u0119: \u201eWidz\u0119 \u017ce bardzo si\u0119 stara\u0142e\u015b rysuj\u0105c ten samoch\u00f3d. Dzi\u0119kuj\u0119, \u017ce
\nprzygotowa\u0142e\u015b dla mnie taki rysunek\u201d.<\/span><\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nOczywi\u015bcie, nasze dzieci
\nnie zawsze przychodz\u0105 do nas w momencie, gdy jeste\u015bmy spokojni i uwa\u017cni<\/b>. Je\u017celi
\ndziecko chce nam co\u015b pokaza\u0107, gdy jeste\u015bmy zdenerwowani lub zaj\u0119ci czym\u015b
\nwa\u017cnym, warto szczerze powiedzie\u0107:<\/b> \u201eDzi\u0119kuj\u0119, \u017ce przynios\u0142e\u015b mi rysunek. Teraz
\nnie mog\u0119 po\u015bwi\u0119ci\u0107 mu tyle uwagi, na ile zas\u0142uguje \u2013 przyjd\u0119 go dok\u0142adnie
\nobejrze\u0107 za godzin\u0119\u201d. <\/span><\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n3. B\u0105d\u017a uczciwy. <\/span><\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nJe\u017celi dziecko b\u0119dzie chwalone za wszystko<\/b>,
\npochwa\u0142y strac\u0105 swoj\u0105 moc i znaczenie<\/b>, a dzieci b\u0119d\u0105 czu\u0142y, \u017ce s\u0105 traktowanie lekcewa\u017c\u0105co<\/b> i niepowa\u017cnie.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\n<\/a>4. Doceniaj nie tylko
\nrezultaty, ale przede wszystkim prac\u0119.<\/span><\/b><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nCzasem trudno pochwali\u0107
\nefekt<\/b>. Je\u017celi dziecko mia\u0142o za zadanie posprz\u0105ta\u0107 pok\u00f3j, ale po drodze rozla\u0142o
\nfarb\u0119, trudno powiedzie\u0107 \u201eWidz\u0119, \u017ce pi\u0119knie posprz\u0105ta\u0142e\u015b\u201d. Warto jednak doceni\u0107
\nwysi\u0142ki dziecka: \u201ePodoba mi si\u0119, jak bardzo si\u0119 stara\u0142e\u015b sprz\u0105taj\u0105c sw\u00f3j pok\u00f3j\u201d. <\/span><\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nPoszukajmy drobiazg\u00f3w, kt\u00f3re mo\u017cemy pochwali\u0107, aby wesprze\u0107 starania dziecka<\/b> i
\nnie pozostawi\u0107 go z poczuciem \u201eNo i co, \u017ce si\u0119 stara\u0142em, skoro nie wysz\u0142o\u201d.
\nLepiej, \u017ceby wiedzia\u0142o, i\u017c wi\u0119kszo\u015b\u0107 zadania zosta\u0142a wykonana i bardzo to
\ndoceniamy. <\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nCO JESZCZE JEST WA\u017bNE?<\/b><\/span><\/span><\/div>\n
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\n<\/a>Pozytywne zdarzenie to
\ntak\u017ce zdarzenie, gdy dziecko zachowa si\u0119 lepiej ni\u017c zazwyczaj <\/b>lub trudna
\nsytuacja przebiega mniej problematycznie<\/b>.<\/span><\/div>\n
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\n<\/a>Zauwa\u017caj w czym dziecko
\njest dobre, nie czekaj\u0105c z nagrod\u0105 wy\u0142\u0105cznie na zachowanie perfekcyjne.<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nChwal cz\u0119sto dzieci,
\nkt\u00f3re sprawiaj\u0105 k\u0142opoty wychowawcze.<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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\nWyra\u017caj si\u0119 pochlebnie
\no dziecku w obecno\u015bci innych.<\/b><\/div>\n

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\nZapraszam!<\/b><\/span><\/div>\n
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Temat dotyczy dzieci, ale… chwalmy nie tylko dzieci. Pochwalmy partnera, wsp\u00f3\u0142pracownika oraz samego siebie. Chwalenie dodaje wiary we w\u0142asne mo\u017cliwo\u015bci, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":586,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"","ast-site-content-layout":"default","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","ast-disable-related-posts":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"default","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-4)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-opacity":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[13,22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-585","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-komunikacja-z-dzieckiem","category-poczucie-wlasnej-wartosci"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/585","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=585"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/585\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":590,"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/585\/revisions\/590"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/586"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=585"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=585"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/wstronedziecka.pl\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=585"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}